I'd put out a lot more if you'd:
scrub the bathtub (more than once every six months)...without me asking.
surprise me by making dinner every now and then...without me asking.
finish the many unfinished projects around our house...without me asking.
help me with the daily household chores... i.e. laundry, dishes, vacuuming, etc... without me asking.
not ASK me to put out every five seconds.
not grumble under your breath and act put out every time I ask for help.
stop acting like I never do anything.
Seems like I'd have a lot more energy for the things you want me to do if you'd take the initiative to help with the things I don't want to do.